As retirement looms, many anticipate a slower pace of life—quiet mornings, leisurely walks, and days spent with time on their hands. But for many retirees, the shift away from the workforce doesn’t necessarily bring an end to active roles and responsibilities. In fact, retirement often introduces a whole new set of unexpected titles, from being a “financial guru” to a “domestic manager,” and even, as humorously pointed out in many jokes, a “sexual adviser.” It’s a reminder that, no matter the stage of life, humor remains a crucial tool in navigating the joys and absurdities of life. Retirement, in particular, offers fertile ground for laughter and wit, as individuals find themselves in new positions that bring out both the best and most amusing qualities of long-term relationships.In marriage, as in retirement, humor plays a vital role. Over the years, couples accumulate shared memories, inside jokes, and a wealth of experience that naturally leads to a certain kind of witty repartee. The small irritations that crop up—like deciding where to eat for dinner or who should handle household chores—are softened by the ability to laugh together. It’s not about creating perfection; rather, it’s about finding the humor in imperfections, and embracing the fact that life’s little mishaps can often lead to the most memorable moments.

In many households, retirement brings with it an unexpected transformation of roles. A retiree, once immersed in a structured career, finds themselves stepping into new, sometimes unorthodox, advisory positions. Perhaps they’ve become the one in charge of managing the family budget or organizing the family calendar. In other cases, they might find themselves offering unsolicited—but lovingly given—advice on a range of topics, including matters of intimacy. These moments create the perfect backdrop for humor, as the lines between adviser and advised blur in the most comical ways. What might seem like a typical household conversation can take a humorous twist when the retired spouse becomes the de facto expert in a given area, whether they wanted that title or not.

Consider one classic joke that reflects this dynamic. A retiree is asked by someone, “Do you have a job now that you’re retired?” To which he responds, “I am my wife’s sexual adviser.” The questioner, somewhat shocked, probes further, asking, “What do you mean by that?” The retiree’s response is simple: “Very simple. My wife told me that when she wants my f**king advice, she’ll ask for it.”At first glance, this joke might appear crude, but the brilliance lies in its clever twist. Here, the retiree—who may have expected to embrace new hobbies or focus on his own interests post-retirement—has instead been given a role that is both intimate and humorous.